30 Ways to Love Yourself
It is great to be in a relationship, especially one that you feel loved. But not all of us are in one, but that does not mean that we are not loved. In order to attract love, we must first learn to love ourselves – not in a narcissistic way, but in a manner that will grow our self-confidence and esteem.
If not for others, there is so much to gain by developing our self-worth and building a stronger and more resilient inner-self. A confident and strong person is also more attractive, because the other party knows that you will bring strength and stability to the relationship.
But how do you start to love yourself and build up your self-worth? The good news is that it is not difficult to do so, as many of the ways we are going to cover are things that you can do quite easily (well… at least they’re easier than sticking to a diet!). Take the time to read and understand the following points, and you’re on your way to stronger self-esteem!
1. Start spending time with the right people
It’s appealing to want to hang around with your friends, but if you want to grow, you have to spend time with the people you want to be.
2. Face your problems head on
Avoidance does nothing to help your growth. Confront your problem and try to resolve them – your problems won’t disappear just because you bury your head in the sand.
3. Be honest with yourself about everything
You cannot improve if you are not even honest with yourself. There is no incentive to lie to yourself, so be critically honest and call out your own flaws, and figure out what you can do to improve yourself.
4. Make your own happiness a priority
As odd as it sounds, many of us prioritize the happiness of others over our own. We try too hard to make everyone else happy. Don’t do that – we might end up hurting ourselves! Happiness should start from within, so we can share it with others.
5. Be yourself, genuinely and proudly
Be yourself – everyone else is taken. You will never be happy if you try to be someone you’re not. Stay true to who you are.
6. Live in the present
If you feel sad, you’re living in the past. If you feel anxious, you’re living in the future. If you’re content, you’re living in the present. Don’t think too much of the past, or worry about the future. Life is what it is, so focus on the present.
7. Value the lessons your mistakes teach you
Mistakes does not help a person grow. It is learning from the lessons that help a person mature and grow stronger. Embrace life’s lessons and let them turn you into a stronger person.
8. Love yourself
How do you expect people to love you if you can’t even love yourself?
9. Enjoy the things you already have
Appreciate your side of the grass, and stop being envious of the other side!
10. Create your own happiness
Stop waiting for someone to make you happy. Do things that make yourself happy!
11. Give your ideas and dreams a chance
Don’t let self-doubt extinguish your dreams. If you’re not fully confident (most of us aren’t), take baby steps towards your goals. Who knows… you might succeed beyond your wildest dreams!
12. Believe that you’re ready for the next step
Get out of your comfort zone and take the next step forward!
13. Enter new relationships for the right reasons
Don’t rush into a relationship just because you want to be in one. A good relationship should grow and nurture you as a person, so take your time and evaluate carefully.
14. Give new people you meet a chance
It may surprise you to know how many couples didn’t think much of their significant others during their first meetings. Keep an open mind and you might be surprised! That is why Klick encourages users to share their personalities instead of judging users by profile photos.
15. Compete against yourself
The only person worth competing against is yourself – be a better version of yourself than yesterday. That will be your greatest achievement!
16. Cheer for other people’s victories
Be gracious – celebrate the victories of others. That goodwill may be returned to you in surprising ways.
17. Look for the silver lining in tough situations
Being able to see a little positivity in difficult situations helps keep you in a lighter mood, and gives you more strength to push through where others might have given up.
18. Forgive yourself and others
Bearing grudges weigh you down mentally. You can’t go through life being upset at others and yourself. Learn to let go of the past, forgive and move on. There is really no point clinging on to something that already happened, and letting that affect your future!
19. Help those around you
Lend a helping hand to the people around you (within your means of course). It makes a lot of difference to them, and makes you a stronger person.
20. Listen to your own inner voice
We all get a lot of advice from well-meaning people around us, but we know ourselves best. So listen to what your inner voice is telling you, because it knows what you want to be.
21. Pay attention to your stress level and take short breaks
When things become overwhelming, taking short breaks help you to relax, recharge and get a grip on the situation. Break down the tasks into smaller segments and decide which is more urgent, then focus on them and push them through before thinking about other tasks.
22. Notice the beauty of small moments
There aren’t that many big bang moments in our lives, but there are plenty of beautiful small moments that we should appreciate. It can be something as simple as someone holding the door for you, or the sound of raindrops against the window pane. If you cannot appreciate the beauty of small things, it is difficult to be happy in life.
23. Accept things when they are less than perfect
Wanna make God laugh? Tell Him your plans. All of us have ideal plans that we hope for, but things seldom happen the way we want them to. Learn to accept things when they turn out otherwise, and adapt to changing circumstances.
24. Work toward your goals every single day
Write down your goals, look at them every morning and work towards them every day. If they are out of sight, they are out of mind. We are usually so busy with the nitty-gritty of life that we forget our goals, so it is important to remind ourselves every day and push ourselves towards achieving them.
25. Be more open about how you feel
We’d like to imagine that people know how we feel, and we justify our beliefs with statements like ‘isn’t it obvious that I don’t like it?’ or ‘can’t you see my expression that I’m upset?’. The fact is that people can be pre-occupied and miss the signs you are sending out, or they might interpret it otherwise. Instead, be more open and direct about your thoughts and emotions, instead of simmering in frustration when someone didn’t ‘get the hint’.
26. Take full accountability for your own life
Somewhere in life, you have to learn to stop pushing the buck. Life is not fair, but whichever way your life turns out is largely your own responsibility. Push hard and stop making excuses, because nobody’s interested to hear them.
27. Actively nurture your most important relationships
We will cross paths with many people in our life, but only a handful will be important and long-term relationships. Those are the ones that we should treasure and not take for granted, because familiarity can easily lead to contempt. Spend time and effort nurturing the important relationships, and never let them lapse, whither or die.
28. Concentrate on the things you can control
There are enough things in life to worry as it is, so focus on the things you can control. If you’re going for an interview, do your preparation work and deliver your best performance, then stop worrying if they will call you back – that is not within your control. Just do your best, and focus on actionable priorities.
29. Focus on the possibility of positive outcomes
Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. The negative “what ifs” that keeps us in line keeps us from being outstanding and truly great. What if I post an update on Klick and nobody likes it? So be it… post another! But what if you post an update on Klick and someone who is your soulmate sees it and connects with you? Focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes pushes you into action, and into achieving something in life.
30. Be grateful for all the things you do have
There are many things in life we wish to have, but there are even more things that we already have. Be grateful for your health, family, friends, having a job, a roof over your head or a good education. These are things which many others may not have, so being appreciative of your good fortunate is a good start to loving yourself.