15 Tips to Stay Mentally Strong

All of us have our challenging phases in life. They pass by quickly for the lucky ones, and they linger for the less fortunate of us. As a famous quote goes, “do not pray for a easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” We will never know when or what challenges life will throw at us, so it is important to build our mental strength to deal with whatever comes our way.

We will all face periods in our life where nothing seems to go right, and everything conspires to rob us of every bit of our strength. We can blame this on popular culture, where we celebrate and publicize tales of victories, and struggles are swept under the carpet. Now and then, we may hear interviews and revelations from successful people that their lives were not all smooth sailing, and they too had their fair share of struggles.

How can you stay mentally strong and continue to push yourself when everything seems to go wrong, and you don’t feel you’re making any progress despite your best efforts? We share with you 15 tips to stay mentally strong when you feel like quitting!

1) Enjoy spending time alone
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. Don’t be afraid to be alone with your thoughts and learn to use your downtime to be productive.

2) Live in the present – not in the past nor in the future
Rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future, being in the present allows you to see things as they really are. Have a mindful, attentive way of engaging with the world.

3) Dare to get out of your comfort zone
The comfort zone won’t keep you safe. On the contrary, the comfort zone can be a dangerous place, where you may lose yourself entirely by remaining there for too long. Don’t give up your life doing only “safe” things – learn to take calculated risks!

4) Be self-aware
Self-awareness helps us get in touch with our psychological/physiological needs—knowing what we need, what we don’t need, and when it’s time to reach out for some extra help.

5) Don’t be jealous of others’ happiness
Don’t feel jealous of others’ success; feel happy for them! Resentment sucks up a massive amount of your mental energy.

6) Know that failure is part of success
Don’t give up because of a failure – it’s a part of the game. Everyone is allowed to fall, but, then, you have to rise again.

7) Learn from your mistakes
Don’t make the same mistakes over and over. You have to accept responsibility for your behaviour and learn from your past mistakes. Don’t dwell on them… instead, move on to make better decisions in the future.

8) Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself
Don’t sit around feeling sorry about a lost game or how others in game have treated you. Take responsibility for their actions and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

9) Avoid unreasonable conflicts
The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back. Holding grudges has never been a solution to problems, nor has anyone achieved anything out of it. Instead of spending your time hating people who hurt you, choose to let go of the pain and learn from the incident. Even in the harshest stress factors, stay calm and try to handle situations smoothly.

10) Don’t try to please everyone
Recognize that you don’t need to please everyone all the time. Don’t be afraid to say no or speak up when necessary.

11) Listen to other people’s advices
Don’t be arrogant. A good idea is a good idea, regardless of whether or not you came up with it. Don’t let your ego get the better of you; if someone has great advice to give, take it.

12) But they don’t let others’ decide for you
Only you should be making your own decisions; you can’t allow others to make them for you. All this does is shift the responsibility from you to someone else, but the only person failing in the end is you. If you don’t have the courage to fail, then you don’t have the courage to succeed.

13) Know when to stop
Understand that there is a separation between who you are at your core and the cause of your temporary suffering. The stress/trauma might play a part in your story but it does not overtake your permanent identity.

14) Don’t whine
Whining about your problems always makes you feel worse, not better. So if something is wrong, don’t waste time complaining. Put that mental energy into making things better.

15) Believe in yourself
And that’s why you can do all of the above!